I was making myself a midnight salad (insert joke here), and by this time of the evening, my mind starts wandering and making random connections. Somehow I got to thinking about previous relationships (failed, attempted, and actual), and I realized something that hadn’t before. There were two separate points in my life when girls I was more or less involved with very blatantly, in an indirect way, told me exactly how they viewed the long-term success of the relationship. In both cases, I read the tell completely reverse of its intended meaning.
Of course, those expectations of long-term success are always subject to change, so the tell told me nothing beyond what they thought at that time. However, I really wish I had picked up on that tell; it would have saved a great deal of pain, anguish, and hurt feelings. Oh well, always better late than never…
In case you’re curious (and I know you are), the tell went one way the first time, and the other direction the second.